Deciding Not To Decide

I’ve been in one of those seasons where I feel God is teaching me so many things about church leadership, and leadership in general for that matter.

My most recent lesson has to do with decisions.

I’ve always thought a strong leader was a leader who could make a fast and informed decision about anything at anytime. I thought this kind of decision making would help you achieve a irreplaceable position in the organization.

And it might.

But it’s horrible for the developmental culture of your organization.

Making all of the decisions does nothing to help develop other leaders or make them feel like they’re an important part of the process and furthermore it continues to feed your self deception that you’re actually the smartest person in the room.

So these days when faced with a really important decision that needs to be made I’m learning to respond with a simple question.

What do you think?

Amazing how that one question…

-develops ownership
-generates better ideas
-creates extra time for you to focus on what only you can focus on

Don’t be afraid to let go of your need to control your own life. Decide not to decide.

I’m finding all kinds of uses for this principle at work, in my marriage and with my kids.

So let’s all say it out loud together….What do you think?

Anyone else struggle with a few control issues?

5 Responses to “Deciding Not To Decide”

  1. Mike in Milwaukee says:

    This is a tough issue for leaders. Having worked for over 15 years for an amazing visionary leader, I can tell you how helpful the words “what do you think?” are.

    They do indeed empower people toward what I call “roving leadership.” When you’ve caught the vision and the leadership shows you they trust you by giving you the green light to make decisions within your area of responsibility, the whole organization HUMS!

  2. Wayne Stiles says:

    Super post, Pete. There’s tremendous wisdom in what you’re saying here. I don’t think Jesus ever asked a question that He didn’t already know the answer to. But the question stimulated thinking and included the disciples in the ministry. I’m thinking of the feeding of the 5000, in particular. Thanks.

  3. Peter says:

    Pete, this hits home right now. I just had this conversation with one of my team members today. I gotta learn this lesson a bit more…

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