Beyond Ordinary

There is one truth that I believe is universal to all of us: We are really good at falling in love and not so good at staying in love. Many people get married but don’t experience what they dreamed of when they said, “I do.”

I’ll never forget the humbling moment when I realized that while I had helped bring Brandi some of her greatest joys, I had also contributed to her deepest pain. I don’t know why I didn’t see it earlier. I mean, think about it. Can you name any area of your life you can neglect and then expect to see improvement?

Does this work with your body? Nope. Ignore it, and you’ll get fat. Does this work with your business? Nope. Ignore it, and it will crash. Does this work with your yard? Nope. Ignore it and, weeds will overrun it. So why in the world do we think we can put our marriages on autopilot and they will still be what God wants them to be? Marriage is deeply satisfying. Marriage is incredibly fulfilling. Marriage is loads of fun. Marriage is full of joy and hope and laughter. But marriage is not easy. Not even close.

This is why I’m so excited to share with you a new book that I think is a game changer. My friends Justin and Trisha Davis just released their first book, Beyond Ordinary: When a Good Marriage Isn’t Good Enough.

Let me give you one word of warning: this is not a safe book. I know Justin and Trish. I know their heart. I know their mission. And with no apologies they’re about to disrupt and challenge everything you’ve ever thought about improving in your marriage.

As soon as I started reading the manuscript that led to this book, I realized just what an amazing resource Justin and Trish are sharing with us. Tears welled in my eyes as I read, knowing this is not just a book that will help you discover an “extraordinary marriage”; it will actually tell you how to achieve it.

Much of the genius of this book undoubtedly lies in the reality that Justin and Trish have lived these principles themselves. I’ve had the unbelievable privilege of doing life with Justin and Trish over the past twelve years, and I am better for it.

I can tell you firsthand that if you’ll listen to the God-given wisdom they share in this book, your life and marriage will never be the same.

I am deeply grateful for the transformation that has happened in my own marriage as a result of the wisdom in this book.

I want to give away 3 copies today.

Just leave your name and where you are from in the comments and I’ll randomly choose winners this weekend.

You can purchase a copy of the book HERE

95 Responses to “Beyond Ordinary”

  1. Wayne Stiles says:

    The book sounds awesome, Pete. Thanks for being so generous. We do need a dose of reality in a world that only tells us half the story. Thanks also for your blog. I read every post.

  2. Jessi Whitt says:

    I love Justin and Trisha’s story. Their book is one that I’d really like to read.

    Port Saint Luce FL

  3. Brian Alexander

    Charlotte, NC

  4. Allison Roberts says:

    Allison Roberts

    West Plains, MO

  5. Jon says:

    Jon Fish
    Ottawa, ON CANADA
    married 13 years to the most wonderful women. We’ve had our share of ups and downs. marriage is hard work…

  6. Christina says:

    Chilliwack, BC
    We’ve been married 20 years and yep LOTS of ups and downs. not easy but sooooo worth it!

  7. Dave Vander Laan says:

    George, IA

  8. Kristi Smith says:

    As you know, I have only been married 1 year but i would love to know how to make my marriage extraordinary from the beginning!!

    Kristi Smith
    Nashville, TN

  9. Dana Tallman says:

    Dana and Ken Tallman, White House, TN
    I’d love to have this book! We’re thinking about using it in our couples small group!

  10. Lori Puckett says:

    Waxahachie TX Would love the book.

  11. Jerry Wright says:

    Your messages have been forwarded to me by a friend Jack Cheshier, Whitney’s father, they are very inspirational. Thank you

  12. Ashley says:

    Sounds awesome.

    Ashley Beck
    Baton Rouge, LA

  13. cindi franer says:

    Hi Pete,
    I love my church (Eagle Brook Church, Lino Lakes, Minnesota) and our pastors, but I seriously read your email the minute it hits my inbox. The people at your church are fortunate to have such a wise and humble senior pastor.

    cindi franer
    Lindstrom, Minnesota

  14. Justin Davis says:

    This book wouldn’t be possible without you, Pete. Your friendship, leadership and guidance the past 13 years has made a huge difference in my life. Thank you for believing in me and in our story and helping us share it with others. Love you.

  15. Tessa says:

    Tessa from Ardmore, TN.

  16. Cheryl Derrick says:

    Crossville, TN

  17. Victoria says:

    Vee :)

    Mesa, Az

  18. Deanna says:

    Sounds like a great book!

    Ponca City, OK

  19. Stan Murphy says:


    Morgantown, Ky.

  20. Chrissy Jadwisiak says:

    Fort Sill, Oklahoma :)

  21. Dana Wright says:

    Coral Springs, Florida

  22. I love this post. Such a great summary to why we need to work in marriage.

    Reading from Miami, Florida.

  23. Roy Jacques says:

    Roy Jacques
    Mount Pleasant, SC

  24. T S Winnett says:

    Not only would I like to share this with the readers of my blog, but my dd is heading to college in a year and a half. My husband and I will be heading into a new phase of our 18 year marriage (19 then!). As we consider new and expanding ministries, would love to make sure our marriage is as strong as it can be!

  25. I believe the only way we can truly have JOY in our journey is to get transparent about what has been in our journey and tell others how Jesus reached down in the pit and pulled us out! I look forward to reading this book! Woohoo!

  26. Pat Laeger says:

    Pat Laeger
    St. Paul, MN

  27. Samuel Paulraj says:

    I am hearing so many good things about this book and me and my wife would love to read and get transformed as we are going through
    hard times in our marriage.
    Thanks for your review.

    Sam & Annie Paulraj
    Columbus OH

  28. Karen Garrison says:

    Married almost 28 years to a man I ADORE!
    Portland, OR

  29. Paul Jenkins says:

    Clayton, NC

  30. Steve Gregory says:

    Pulaski, VA

  31. Maria says:

    Maria Oxford, MS

  32. Brennan McCurdy says:

    Sacramento CA

    Married 3 1/2 years.

    Thanks for the post!!

  33. Brian Becker says:

    Wow. I think I’ve found myself reducing the vision I have for my marriage to ordinary+, but certainly not BEYOND ordinary. “If I can just have a regular date night…” “If I can just send one text during the day to let her know I’m thinking of her…”. All good and worthy, but I’d love to lift my vision to beyond ordinary!

  34. Jenn says:

    Jenn Derrick
    Ponca City, OK

  35. Wanda Simpson says:

    Hopwood, PA

  36. lynne pierson says:

    Lynne Peace
    Washington DC
    -Would like to get married some day!

  37. victoria says:

    Victoria Cumbow, Huntsville, Ala. I heard Justin and Trish speak at Crosspoint in December. I’ve wanted to read this since I heard their message. Thanks.

  38. Jenny says:

    Fort Mill, SC

  39. Kaylen says:

    Two of my good friends are about to get married in February and I would love to give this book to them.

    Kaylen Wilson
    Franklin, TN

  40. Sound like a true game changer. After 15 great (but at time very difficult) years of marriage this just may be what I need. Thx.

    Travis Marshall
    St. Louis, Mo

  41. Vicki Rowe says:

    Vicki Rowe
    Wellington New Zealand

  42. Amy says:

    Amy Curee
    Mount Juliet, TN

  43. Carrie says:

    Little Rock, Arkansas

  44. Your statement about how we as husbands can bring some of the deepest joys as well as the deepest pain into the lives of our wives is haunting to me! How true. I look forward to reading Beyond Ordinary with my wife.

  45. Samantha says:

    The book sounds amazing and like it would hit right to the heart of what we need right now. Thanks for sharing it with us!

    Samantha Nelson
    Kansas City, MO

  46. Kristen George says:

    Hi Pete. I was a young widow, and recently remarried a wonderful man. We both battle issues of regret and failure from our first marriages. This sounds like a great resource for us. We were ordinary once and don’t want to go there again!
    Kristen George
    Roanoke, Texas

  47. Susie Daggett says:

    Susie Daggett
    Mount Morris, MI

  48. Jocelyn Leigh says:

    Jocelyn Leigh
    Dayton, OH

  49. Anson Sexton says:

    Anson Sexton
    Lake Forest, CA

    Definitely intrigued by this book. Love Justin & Trisha! God bless.

  50. Kallie Main says:

    Kallie Main
    Fairview, TN

  51. Michael says:

    Looking forward to reading the book.

    Michael Gonzales
    Elk Grove, CA

  52. Stephanie says:

    This book sounds great. I’d love to read it.
    Stephanie Pepper
    Smyrna, TN

  53. Veronica says:

    Clarksville, TN

  54. Chris Walker says:

    Hamilton, Ohio

  55. Kristo C. says:

    Can’t wait to read the book!
    Holly Springs, GA

  56. Larry Johnson says:

    Larry Johnson
    Glen Lyn, VA

  57. Tapper says:

    Don’t pick me, I already bought it. It’s a great book with an honest story of failure, love, forgiveness & redemption.

  58. Lisa says:

    Lisa Aguilar
    Nashville, TN

  59. Bek Vos says:

    Waterloo, ON
    * Just got engaged

  60. Cross Point member living in Accra, Ghana!

  61. Makila says:


  62. Adam says:

    Sounds like a great book.


  63. Rob Lott says:

    Thank you!

    Rob Lott
    Orlando, FL

  64. Rahel Seyfou says:

    Rahel Seyfou
    Nashville, TN

  65. Mary Surber says:

    Mary Surber
    Memphis, TN

  66. amykay says:

    this book sounds so RIGHT for where we are right now… good but ready for the next, better, closer, extraordinary step!

    arlington tx

  67. Michael Bunker says:

    This book sounds amazing. I have been married 13 years and it is one of the toughest things I’ve done, even more than being a parent. It hasn’t always been easy, but definitely has been worth it. To have a tool like this would only strengthen our marriage and keep us from becoming another sad statistic.

    thank you for the opportunity

    Michael Bunker
    Clinton, TN

  68. Karen says:

    Karen from El Paso, Texas

  69. Sarah says:

    oh, this book sounds amazing! I’m from Grand Rapids, Michigan and my hubby and I would love to read it!

  70. Lindsay says:

    Lindsay Lizotte

    Memphis, TN

  71. Heather says:

    Orlando, fl … Would love to win

  72. Kim S says:

    Kim from Knoxville, TN

  73. Catherine says:

    Catherine from Knoxville

  74. Jen says:

    I would love to read this!!
    Bellevue, NE

  75. Kevin Poole says:

    Kevin from Fowlerville, MI

    Married 16+years, serving as a children’s pastor. Would love to have a copy of the book to read and share with others!

  76. Joel Mayward says:

    Joel Mayward, from Langley, British Columbia.

  77. CJ says:

    Pete, thanks for being so inspiring!

    Milwaukee, WI

  78. Angel S. says:

    Angel S
    Gresham, OR

  79. Colleen Gudge says:

    Colleen Gudge
    Camas, WA
    Praying “Beyond Ordinary” will be the answer to my second time around marriage trials.

  80. AJ says:

    Sounds amazing!

    AJ Martin
    Barrie, ON, CAN

  81. diane1230 says:

    Diane Wright
    Little Rock, AR

  82. Robin Padanyi says:

    Read an excerpt from their book and I’m looking forward to reading together with my wife.

    Robin Padanyi
    Edmonton, AB

  83. Amie says:

    New Prague, MN

  84. Russ says:

    Russ Ray
    Indianapolis, IN

  85. -t- says:

    from Florida… but presently we’re in Morristown, NJ

  86. Melissa Valenitne says:

    Melissa Valentine
    Fort Myers, FL

  87. vanilla says:

    David W. Lacy, Tipton, Indiana

  88. Tracy Frazier says:

    Tracy Frazier
    Louisville, KY

  89. Jamie Willow says:

    Jamie Lockhart
    Nashville, TN

  90. Lisa and Terry Stanley says:

    Would love to have a copy of your book!

  91. Steve Mueller says:

    Georgetown, SC
    Just catching up on my reading, maybe it’s not to late!

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