Regarding Regret

I read the other day that love is the most commonly expressed emotion in the context of daily conversations.

That makes sense to me.

However, the second most expressed emotion in conversation caught me a bit by surprise. It was regret.

I wish I had saved that money instead of buying that car.

I wish I had asked her out.

I wish I hadn’t asked her out.

I wish I had applied for that job.

I wish I had taken that risk.

Most of the regret I’ve accumulated in my life is directly connected to these three words: LACK OF FAITH.

With this in mind we’ve launched a new series at Cross Point entitled, “More.”

Here’s the amazing series opener. Hats off to Stephen and Matt and the tons of volunteers who helped us out on this one (I’m amazed at the number of Cross Point volunteers you can get to show up downtown at 3 am).

If you’re not in the area you can hang out with us during this series online.

Oh, I almost forgot. I told you the inspiration behind yesterday’s message was my friend, Pastor Steven Furtick’s book “Sun Stand Still.” We sold out of copies yesterday and we’ll get more, but if you don’t want to wait you can pick up a copy HERE

Let’s make 2011 a year we start chipping away at that mountain of regret.

MORE: Series Launch Promo from Cross Point Church on Vimeo.

29 Responses to “Regarding Regret”

  1. Chelsea says:

    I love this post. It’s sad to think that regret is the second most expressed emotion. The problem I see is that people (including myself) reflect too much on the past and regret and dwelling over it that they miss the opportunities that are right in front of them now. We continue to build moments of regret because we forget to remain in what is happening right now and looking for opportunities to be used at this moment because we wish we could change the past. We need to step up, stop dwelling, and look at where we are now. We can’t miss these opportunities that God puts right in front of us.

    • jasonjayjohnson says:

      I have overcame a drug addiction, being sexually abused, physically abused, emotionally abused, three differnt suicide attempts, getting hit standing in the road. and i went through four years in one of the states worst prisons. I can say i never had a mom or dad. yet i got plugged into church at a young age only to be molested by one of the male leaders in the church. however i continued to go to a different church and surround my self with different people. i always wished to have a loving family like all my christian friends had. i got married to a christian girl only for her to cheat on me. i owned my own business and was a firefighter in a large city. went to taylor univ studied for a degree in pastora ministrys also helped direct youth for christ, and many other young adult ministries. well i left it all because i didnt realize how much JESUS really loved me. This video really puts it in perspective. I am living the life of jaybez prayer. after loosing all my children and my girl friend in a car accident. I can say GODS Love is always in my face. I love it. slow down step aside and stare at it. the journey is just begining for us. thanks lindsey nobles for the hook up.

  2. Great video! But I think they are all fantastic.

  3. I got chills watching this video. It is so amazing to think of how we were greated by God, and He had nothing but greatness planned for us when we were on His mind. We started out as just a thought to Him, but it wasn’t just a thought like when we think of needing to take the trash out, or about the grocery list. We were a GRAND THOUGHT to God, so grand that He breathed life into us & set us on this earth to do great things for Him! I plan to follow this series online, and I pray that God will use this series to ignite a newfound hope, passion, and revivial in His people! Thank you for taking the step in getting His message out! Grace & Peace!

  4. Kenny Silva says:

    That was one of the best messages I’ve heard you preach yesterday, Pete. The video was incredible as well. I love where this series is going and am so excited for the next couple of weeks!

  5. this is such a fitting topic for my season of life. i look forward to getting to listen to these messages online.

  6. Marni says:

    Looking forward to keeping up with this message – it entwines very well with our Church’s series right now on the Fundamentals of our Christian faith.

  7. Joe says:

    This video is just plain weird. I like the message, but don’t get the concept used in the video. The “actor” who runs down Broadway passing zombie-like folks on the street is over the top. Wouldn’t this have been so much more effective as a straight on message from Pete speaking against the setting sun of the Nashville skyline? Again, no problem at all with the message, but these CP videos are just way to slick and overproduced for my taste.

    • Pete Wilson says:

      Appreciate your opinion Joe.

      I personally love the creative aspect in this particular video. It’s always important to note that the video isn’t created to be a stand alone piece. The message, the video, the worship all work together to communicate the message we’re trying to get across.

      I’m looking forward to getting our internet campus up in February so you guys can see how some of these pieces work together.

      Thanks Joe.

  8. Mike in Milwaukee says:

    I love it Pete. Very nicely done. Regret is a tremendous topic to teach through. In fact, up here, we have an annual men’s ministry conference called “No Regrets.”

    “The opportunity of a lifetime must be seized within the lifetime of the opportunity” reminds me of this from Shakespeare, Julius Caesar Act 4, scene 3, in which Brutus says…

    There is a tide in the affairs of men.
    Which, taken at the flood, leads on to fortune;
    Omitted, all the voyage of their life
    Is bound in shallows and in miseries.
    On such a full sea are we now afloat,
    And we must take the current when it serves,
    Or lose our ventures.

    Brutus and Cassius are discussing the final phase of their civil war with the forces of Octavian and Marcus Antonius. Cassius has been urging that they group their forces at Sardis and take advantage of the secure location to catch their breath.

    Brutus, however, advocates heading off the enemy at Philippi before Octavian can recruit more men. Brutus’s main point is that, since “the enemy increaseth every day” and “We, at the height, are ready to decline” (lines 216–217), he and Cassius must act now while the ratio of forces is most advantageous.

    “There’s a tide in the affairs of men,” he insists; that is, power is a force that ebbs and flows in time, and one must “go with the flow.” Waiting around only allows your power to pass its crest and begin to ebb; if the opportunity is “omitted” (missed), you’ll find yourself stranded in miserable shallows.

    See, even Shakespeare knew that if you snooze, you lose!

  9. David Knapp says:

    Looking forward to viewing your new series online :-)

  10. I can definitely relate to this Pete. I don’t want to live with regret anymore. It is time to step out in faith!

  11. Michael says:

    The cost of missing out is far great than the cost of messing up.

    Man that is some powerful stuff.

  12. Jason says:

    Pete, Sunday was one of your best sermons ever. This series will rock lives if people will let it.

  13. Mark Ryan says:

    Thank you… this is so good… I’ll be keeping up with this series..

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  15. *~Michelle~* says:

    “Every opportunity has an expiration date…..”

    WOW. powerful statement….

    Looking forward to this series, Pete!

  16. Timbo Fowler says:

    Tremendous video Pete. Amazed at the efforts of the team. My favorite line is “The cost of missing out can be greater than the cost of messing up.” (I’ve already stolen it-thanks)

    I regret much more the things I “haven’t” done than the things I have done. I give those regrets to the Lord too and keep moving forward with hope and faith. This video helped spur me ahead today so thanks. Always here for you and faithful to pray for you Pete.

  17. jamie says:

    Outstanding video and content!

  18. Dionna says:

    Fabulous. You are so right. And this truth needs to be heard.

  19. Jen says:

    Dude… You look SO cold :)

    Loved the video :)

  20. britt savage says:

    Great message Sunday.

    When I think of regret, usually regretting sins of the past that I regret come to mind. I try to remind myself that all I can do is go on from this day forward and that by praying for forgiveness, I know God has forgiven me.

    But your sermon was more about regret for not following God’s prompting, having faith in some of those critical moments of doubts or fear. It’s a concept I’ve heard you speak on before but Sunday’s message pushed me into really trying to apply it to some areas of my life right now (worrying about finances, and an upcoming gig opportunity)

  21. Lance Lockhart says:

    I love how God convicts us to act, avoiding that action can make a heart miserable. Sunday’s message spoke to me. I had been holding onto five years of printed blog material that I thought one day I may collect into a printed volume. For me the problem is sorting through the past can keep you from the present. Today being a husband and father is more important than…

    I gathered the foot high stack of papers in my arms and placed them all into the recycling bin. I do not want to regret living all in today.

    I also threw away a few pairs of broken Rayban sunglasses, one pair that I had since 1991 and the start of my aviaiton training. I haven’t figured out how this is connected yet, but there is a lot of good happening in our house through our connection to the Cross Point community. I am learning to act more regret less.

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  23. Heather says:

    Even though I am reading this just now, it couldn’t have come at a more better time for me. I have been in a place of regret lately, maybe cause things are hard in our circumstances, but I needed to hear this. This has totally rocked my world, what you said at the end “Every opportunity has an expiration date, and the cost of missing out can be a lot greater than messing up.” WOW, WOW, WOW!! That is a great word.

    Matt and I have already said we will watch online. Can’t wait to hear more. And thank you for those bits of Nashville, we miss it. :)

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